Is it True? Is laughter a good way to winning a person’s heart?

black-couple-laughingNo matter who you ask, every woman will tell you the same thing: She wants a man who can make her laugh. It’s a universal fact for all those who enjoy laughing – which, as far as we know, is everybody. Is that all a woman is looking for? No. But her finding a man funny increases his chances with her.

But, doesn’t this also apply for men when they meet a woman?  Laughter and love does not have to be gender specific. And women, this may be a key to keeping that man interested.

Sense of humor reveals a lot about a person – more than you’d expect. There are several different theories of humor. One theory states that we find things to be funny when the outcome doesn’t line up with our expectations. When a joke or story begins, or any real-life scenario, our minds automatically try to play out how the remainder is going to go; we anticipate what is going to come next.

The anticipation is logical thought combined with our emotions, all resulting from our past experiences and thoughts; we guess what is coming next by comparing what is happening now to what has happened to us before. When we get an unexpected outcome, our minds suddenly experience a new set of thoughts and emotions that no longer line up with those that were a result of our anticipation. This sudden switch in thought and emotions, according to the incongruity theory, is what we interpret as funny.

This tells us two things. One, in order for something to be deemed funny, it has to be unexpected. Two, when you know what people do and don’t find funny, you get a clearer understanding of what they find to be ordinary and what they find to be extraordinary. Extraordinary is funny. Ordinary is boring and expected.

You get a glimpse into their thought processes, into the way their minds work, and a slight glimpse into their pasts. Of course, a lot of things can be unexpected and not deemed to be funny, but chances are, they are deemed to be funny by someone. This is why some people have a very light and almost childlike sense of humor, while others can have a dark, even gruesome sense of humor.

The darker the sense of humor, the darker the person. Getting to know a person’s sense of humor gives you a good read on his or her character. Of course, reading that character isn’t always easy, as many individuals do their best to hide their true natures. But that comes with practice.

Nevertheless, if a persons finds a person they are attractive too funny, they believe they have a similar sense of humor and therefore must have a bit in common. They are more likely to have things they can relate on — similar experiences, similar beliefs and ways of seeing the world. They then tend to feel closer to the other person because they sense that they can understand each other in a way not everyone can.

On top of this, laughing makes you feel really good; it’s a great aphrodisiac. Laughing makes you feel alive and happy. Who doesn’t want to feel that way as often as possible?

Laughing is fun and you have to have fun in a relationship to make it work. If fun is difficult to achieve then you really may not be a good fit for each other — unless you aren’t thinking long-term, rather, just for the night. Then just figure out what the other person finds funny and feed it to them.

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